In today’s video, I’m going to go into the story of how Roberta overcame retroactive jealousy and turned her relationship around.







Read or watch below to learn more about how a former student in “Get Over Your Partner’s Past Fast,” Roberta, overcame retroactive jealousy and found peace in her relationship.



















Zach: I really appreciate you making time for me, Roberta—and just, yeah, being willing to put yourself out there and share a bit of your story. It means a lot to people because not many are willing to speak about that publicly. I really appreciate it.







Roberta: Thank you for creating this whole mission you’ve put out there—because without it, people wouldn’t even know what this is or that it’s something different.







Most regular therapists wouldn’t recognize it unless they’ve been through it themselves or listened to you.







I had never heard of it before. You’re a pioneer.







Honestly, you saved my marriage. I wouldn’t have one if it weren’t for you.







Zach: Wow, that’s really flattering. It’s very kind of you to say.







Maybe you can just tell me a little bit about where you were with retroactive jealousy before you found me—before you came across my work.







What was it like for you? How did it come up in your life?







Roberta: It came up for me because I became insanely jealous, which was strange since I’d always felt secure in myself.







But when I met Bob—the nicest, kindest person I’ve ever met—I started feeling that way. He came into my life at a time when I really needed someone.







I became a widow six years ago—actually, today marks six years.







Zach: Wow.







Roberta: Yeah, so the reason—it’s very emotional for me to look back. I could have destroyed the best thing that ever happened to me.







We met on Christmas Eve, and after just a few days, we were inseparable.







But then the doubts started.







The more time we spent together, the more I kept looking for proof—like, what happened with that other person? Is that going to happen to me?







Then I came across the word “jealousy” and started searching for it on my Kindle.







That’s when I found Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy. I read the blurb and thought, “That’s me.”







Zach: So what were some of the things you used to do because of retroactive jealousy? Were you asking him a lot of questions? Constantly looking for reassurance?







Roberta: Oh yeah, I really was. I kept asking him, “How did you meet? Tell me now.”







But he wouldn’t tell me, and that stayed in the back of my mind.







And because we became so close so quickly, I started doubting that too. I even told him, “You’re just replacing her with me.”







I barely knew anything about her—there were no pictures, no internet presence.







She existed, but it felt like she was hidden away, in some secret place. I couldn’t even see what my so-called competition looked like.







But wow, I really wanted to. I had so many walls up because I thought, I’m really going to fall for him—and when I do, I’m going to get hurt worse than ever before.







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